If you’ve just started high school or are just about to start, congratulations! I don’t get into generalizations about these being the best, hardest, easiest, most important, or more wasted years of your life. I just know that a lot of intellectual, social, and emotional learning takes place in high school. You are ready, wether you feel ready or not.
There’s not a lot to say about preparing for college while you’re in 9th grade. That’s still a long way off, and you’ve got a lot to do before you get to that. But if you already know that you’re planning on college or think you might be going to college, here are some things to do these first few months to start you down the path.
Work at being good at high school. This has an academic side—take the most rigorous classes you can, get the best grades you can, be involved in your education. But just as important at this point are the social and emotional sides. You’re easing your way into a new and exciting (and challenging) place. You’re going to have missteps, and you’re going to change your mind about things. That’s normal, and that’s fine. If you’re feeling pressure to make yourself into a perfect resume—from your family, your school, your friends, or yourself—just repeat this mantra to yourself and anyone else: the best way to prepare for college is to be a good high school student. If you find yourself feeling disconnected from high school because you’re already too immersed in test prep or overexerting yourself in too many activities to boost your college prospects, then it’s time to back off and reevaluate. Also remember this important rule: if the only reason you’re doing something is because you think it will look good to colleges, don’t do it. That’s not a good reason to do anything.
If by Halloween there’s a class that still isn’t working out—because it’s too easy, or too challenging, or not the right fit—bring this up now and see if there are schedule changes that can be made for the spring semester. Keep doing your best in the class, but understand that adjusting plans is something that all successful people do.
Explore your interests. Remember that the whole point of education is to help you be a productive, happy, and interesting person. You can’t and shouldn’t wait until some future date to start working on those things. Explore activities and interests that you haven’t before. Try out a new club, sit somewhere different for lunch, find an interesting question to ask a teacher you haven’t connected with yet. The great thing about high school is that you get to do a lot of growing and changing and developing—you’re not stuck being the same person you were at the end of last year or the beginning of this year. But the hard part is that you are in charge of that growth and development; it can’t happen passively. So try new things, read new things, listen to new things, talk about new things, think new things.
Begin good habits. There are two things you need for success in college and beyond: a meditation routine and a time management system. Now is the time to begin. The sooner and better you do these two things, the easier everything else will be.
Start talking to your family about paying for college. Ask them what the plan is, what your priorities should be, and how you can contribute. If they give you any of the three most popular answers (“don’t worry about,” “we can’t afford anything,” or “we don’t have enough to afford it but make too much for financial aid,” then please ask them to reconsider. You need something more specific. You’ve got time to have these conversations, but now is the best time to begin them.
I wish you the best in this exciting and difficult time!